bol bol bol bachchan

Hi frnzz…ki haal chaal..sab changga? ;) 

Noticed some problem here? Yes? No?
Problem is that I asked u, and even if u replied, I cudnt get ur answer!! WHY? Bcz there lies a communication gap!!!!

In the present scenario, boht insignificant sa sound kar ra hoga na ye sab? But communication ki significance is to such a great extent that almost every sphere of life is covered in its scope. I ll tell u how…as today’s topic is COMMUNICATION IN A RELATIONSHIP – Kitna mushkil, kitna zaruri :D

Grahambell aaya aur telephone invent kr dia..we developed it into mobiles, wireless, walkie talkies, tabs, video confrencing and  wt not…! But dikkat pata hai aaj k tym me kya hai? Ki humare paas means of coomunications to had se zada hain and not to forget that each one of us is an owner of atleast two of such devices…but communication skills nahi hain. 

Communication ka matlb sirf baate exchange karna nahi hota hai guys, unless and until u r able to communicate thru words, actions, expressions or vocally, ur emotions, thoughts, wants, needs and feelings.

Forget abt any odr relation in this world for sometym bcz proffessional relations do not break easily and ties wid parents r also to some extent “lack of communication proof” as they began understanding ur needs frm the time u dint know how to even speak. FOCUS for now on ur relationship wid d person u luv alottt…..!!! (Ppl in time pass relationships can overlook dis blogpost :P )

 Jiske sath hamesha rehna chahte ho..the person to whom u lost ur heart..uske sath communicate karne me problem kyu?? Aesa expect kyu kiya jata hai ki bin bole hi doosra banda/bandi aapki baat samjh lega and will act accordingly? Darling, aesa nahi hota hai! Clear ur mind frm such myths and hypothesis. Remember the first tym u sd I LOVE YOU? Tab bhi bolna pada tha na? ya mann me hi propose kar dia and odr person sd YES widout requiring u to communicate a single wrld of proposal? NAHI…aesa nahi hua tha…qki bolna to padta hi hai.

The same way, once u r in a relation, don’t think ki odr person now knows everything abt u and apne aap hi samjh jana chaiye usko ki wt do I want and expect. NA BOLE TUM NA MENE KUCHH KAHA?? Bass beta ho lia fir to kaam. Tumhare kahe bina doosre ne kuchh karke dena nahi, tumne hona hai disappoint and ho jaani hai ladai on dis point!! Communicate karo..batao expressly ki kya chahte ho…fir dekho ki wish poori ki jaati hai ki nahi..atleast poori hone k 50% chances to banenge na? aur poori nahi hoti hai to reasons complimentary milenge hi doosri side se…:D

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AB - Mere paas feelings hain , emotions hai, thoughts hai, soch hai, aur to aur Samsung note hai, iphone hai, skype hai, whatsapp hai, emoticons hain ………..Tumhare paas kya hai??        
                                                                                                                                                                   
XY - Mere paas…..communication skills hain!!!!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               **dhiskyaaooooon** bhaisaab XY ….ye hui na baat!
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On a srs note..if u do not communicate..and leave things for tym to come..disappointments and discontentment wud increase day by day
as sab kuchh ikkattha hota chala jaega widout any mode of venting it out…
and one day like a volcano, everything wud come out and the heat of lava will change ur relationship to ashes.

DO u want it?? Nahi na…so Guys & gals..communicate karo..khul ke bolo..wese bhi to har waqt bolte rehte ho…jab apne kaam ki baat hai to situation doubt mein kyu rakhni :D :D

KUCHH TUM KAHO..KUCHH HUM KAHEIN… <3 <3

Think think think…..& don’t get up after reading dis post till u decide to speak…\m/ ^_^

Cyaa ppl…
hav fun..
make life easy…
keep rocking

@Luv ka Tadka
Prachi

KUCH KUCH HOTA HAI...??!!!

Hey frnz..All well haan? Long tym I knw..stupid xams u c. :D

So how well could u know ur heart in all this while? 

Thoda boht? Ya boht kuch?
Jitna bhi samajh aya..keep trying to understand dis lovely creature in u :* <3

                So today’s topic is THE RELATIONSHIP OF FRNSHIP AND LOVE….aahaan aahaan…dnt confuse it wid my first blog post..yahan koi third angle nhi hai guys..its just d two of u my pretty love birds.                

Remember kuch kuch hota hai? All SRK fans out dere…u must have not forgotten the epic definition of luv : pyaar kya hai? Pyaar dosti hai! agar voh meri sab se achi dost nahin ban sakti to mein usse pyar nahin kar sakta/sakti.    

Par shayd yaa to hum me se boht log isko bhul k, dosti k bina seedha pyar hi kar lete hain yaa itna zada implement kr lia, ki har dosti me pyaar dhoond lia…;)

Today we’ll be dealing with the implementation of pyar dosti hai !

Do cheezein hamesha yaad rakhna:

1. Jisse dosti na ho use pyaar kabhi mat karna

2. Ek baar dost k sath relation me aane k baad, usse dosti kabhi khatam mat karna

Aur ye sab just hawa me baatein nahi hai..sun lia karo kabhi kisi ki baat :P

Lets come to first truism : “Jisse dosti na ho use pyaar kabhi mat karna”
Frns, If u ll fall in luv wid someone who was never ur frnd…generally dis happens jab instant attraction hota hai and within few days u strt liking everything abt dat person, disregarding whatever u don’t like and dat person also strt showing same signs and then relationship follows. Fir hota kya hai pta hai ? kuchh dino mein u strt knowing that person more. Ab pata chalne lagta hai jab 24*7 touch me rehte ho ki yaar isme to wo boht kuchh hai jo mujhe bilkul chaiye hi nahi tha. U start adjusting..then start compromising..then argue..then patch up…then get frustrated..depressed..argue..and finally break up! U know y dis happens? Bcz u were never frnz!!!! Kabhi pata hi nahi chala ki kya achha lagta hai kya bura..bas relationship me aa gye.

PEHLI NAZAR KA PYAAR? Beta ji…nazre aur nazaaare sab furr ho jaate hain ek baar doosri nazar bhi daal ke dekh lete to :D

World is filld with examples jahan two ppl bcum frnz and think gradually that he/she wud be the last person w/ whom they will fall in luv..and u never knw when cupid strikes…answer to dis is in next truism :  “Ek baar dost k sath relation me aane k baad, usse dosti kabhi khatam mat karna”   

“Ek baar dost k sath relation me aane k baad, usse dosti kabhi khatam mat karna”: Best relationships r those where lovers were first bst of frnds. Sirf kehne ki baat nahi hai ye..100% true hai ye. Reason sab jaante hain but uss sub consciousness se let me extract it out. When u r frnz, u tend to fight alott…argue alott..pange lete ho..maze lete ho ..and as one of my frnds call it “moju” lete ho. U present ur complete true self before ur frnd. Apna sabse achha and sabse worst self show karne me hesitate nahi karte. Frnz know every detail abt ur moods and understand u. AND wt does luv need? UNDERSTANDING..bas. now u ll ask ki aesi frnships dat turn into reships, brk up to unme bhi hote hain? 


Wo sab islie bcz hota kya hai ki relationship me aane k baad dheere dheere dey let a “lover” to dominate a “frnd” and doosre partner ki expectation wahi hoti hai jese purani frnship me thi. Bass clashes hote hi isi baat pe hai ki tum pehle jese nahi rahe/rahi and pat comes reply ki ab hum dost nahi hai, damn we r in a rship!
Arre? To kya ho gya? Rship me frnship barkarar rakhke dekho…it will grow like flowr and bloom like a rose jab bhi kabhi lover haavi hone lage, frnd se usko replace karke dekho. Pehle bhi to fyts hoti ti na? pehle bhi to customize nahi krte te na ek doosre ko? Pehle bhi to ques bank bankar ek dossre k saamne nahi khade hote te na? BE AN ANSWER FOR EACH OTHER..trust me once and ur rship will b ossom blossom..

Keep dis feeling alive In ur heart and make it :
“kuchh kuchh hota hai” ….PEHLE BHI HOTA THA…AAJ BHI HOTA HAI <3 <3

Lastly I wud say for removing all the confusions,”
 Ek baar ankhein bandd karo ...aur fir dekho. Kabhi kabhi insaan bandd aankho se wo haqiqat dekh leta hai, jo wo khuli aankho se kbhi nahi dekh pata” :) 

Till den…keep rocking keep loving,
Dhak dhak dil ki dhadakti daastan
@luv ka tadka
PRACHI

Insecurity ka fear factor!!

Thankyou guys for such an overwhelming response :)                     Srsly ppl..Hats off to those who do extensive bloggings and dat too so beautifully..kasam se yahan to thoughts ko words ki form dene k process me hi half of the thoughts go HAWA HAWAI ..heehe :D :D                 ^_^                        

Ok so I ll stop beating abt the bush now and will come straight to the Topic for the day!!! Today I ll tell u something about the biggest fear dat can make any relationship A horror movie…hoooohahahaha…:O

YES it is something which is inside all of us….it is INSECURITY!!!!!!

Now u must be thinking ki ye madam ab insecurity k baare me aesa kya new batane aayi hain jo hum sab nahi jaante?!!? Ruko guys…let the story unfold..

Aaj k tym me, u check on any relationship…atleast one of the partner is sure shot suffering from this disease, u bet. Aesa na hota to EMOTIONAL ATYACHAAR waalo ki na to TRP badh rhi hoti aur uska host and dost aaj khud ek relationship me hota :D Anyway, getting back to the point…Insecurities, jealousy, possessiveness, sab agnates cognates hain, like bhai behen jese. Ek ko bulao, poora khandaan aa jaega.
Question ye hai ki aaj kal log rship me luv k baadlon k bajay insecurity ki fog se ghire KYU hote hain???

Starting me sachhi bada acha lagta hai ki mera banda kitna possessive ho rha hai mere liye…oh he luvs me so much…meri bandi kitni cute hai, she cant stand any other girl arnd me, wow…my baby wants me to talk to her only…bla bla bla…AWWW SO LOVEY DOVEY!

Bang on! Ye sab moh maya hai…chaar din me dis fog starts suffocating you…either u ll confront ur partner and result will be lights, camera, fights OR u wont confront ur partner with this prob and sooner or later u ll start looking for wayout of ur lovey dovey rship.

TERE MERE BEECH MEIN KYA HAI??? 
This ques shud be asked only with the expectation of Ans nothing more serious than a CHADDAR ......nahi to gadbad hai boss...!!! :D

Girls and boys, Aesa hai ki relationship ko jail banana band kardo! Love is abt bng happy together, not spying on one another.Whtsapp ka last seen chek karke uske witness box me khada kar dena..bande ka apni frnd ko lift dena ya bandi ka apne frnd se lift lene k issue pe mahabharat chher dena…bandi ka apne ex ko na bhul pana aur bande ka apni ex ko bday wish karne pe Trust disputes bana dena…WHATS THE POINT DOING ALL THIS?? CCTV CAMERA HO KYA??

Yaar, jisne jo karna hai wo wo cheez karega hi…chaahe bataake, chaahe chhupake!
I m not saying that u shudnt confront ever! You shud…but on legit things..aese nahi ki tum big boss bann jaao aur uski life k har instance me nazar rakho..aur saara din insecurities me marre raho. REMEMBER…Big boss contestants r showered with money & yet jail is frustrating after a point of time!!


Chillax karo…zada se zada ek din khatam hi hogi na rship? To kya hua…100 crore ki population to sirf india me hai, kaha tha na :D
Aur bina baat pe kuchh bhi khatam nahi hota..par such actions of urs will give ur partner a reason to leave…Stop irritating.

Till the time u r in a rship…enjoy it..enjoy each day like the next moment u wont be together..dont make it a tiresome job, rather A HAPPY LIVING...After all there was something between u guys dat u ignored the world to come together..hai na!!? \m/


                                Pyar karo to aesa karo ki puchhna na pade ki kiske sath ho…               
aur sab kuchh khatm karo to aese karo ki fir farak na pade chaahe jiske bhi sath ho..:)  

Thought 1>LOVE is bful…but sirf tabhi jab PER DAY k hisaab se jiya jaaye <3 :*
Thought 2>Feel SECURE-IN the rship…not IN-SECURE abt the rship. (*^_^*)

Do Think about it..
Love is over rated..insecurity makes it down graded.. ^_^
Dhak dhak dil ki Dhadkti daastan
@Love ka Tadka
Prachi

Bestfriends and one sided love!!

Hey ppl...wssup! 
Thoda time wtsapp se nikalo yaar and listen to ur heart.. bechare dil ki b sun lia karo <3 dhak dhak...dhak dhak...chalo chhado, stethoscope chaiye hoga uske liye to, meri hi baat sunlo fir. :P
Here is my first interaction wid u all thru a blog. Hope u like it.

Today's topic is a simple one : Attraction towards a committed girl!

Dil to hai dil , dil ka aetabaar kya keeje...heard dis song? Heart is stupid and so we r. Bahut simple cheez hai yaar...and i m sure har dossre bande k saath aesa hota hai. Wat m i toking abt? It is this ............................:-

A guy X
A girl Y
total strangers
dheere dheere frnship hui
ladte jhagadte best frnzz bann gaye
Raat raat bhar baatein hone lagi
wtsap ki notifications aani bandd hi nahi hoti thi
Sab kuch share karne lage
Pehle arguments karte the, ab agreements hone lage..
Girl full bindass..cool smart pretty and open hearted
Guy totally mast..but thoda sa reserve and soch samjh k kaam karne waala, saare luv shuv k jhamelo se door..
Then slowly and gradually, guy starts falling fr that girl..
Tumhe kya lagta hai? ladkiyo ko pata nahi chalta? sab pata chalta hai boss!

Khair, ladki hoti hai already relationship me..and she tells this to the guy frnd..but pyaar pe kiska zor hai and  the guy still keeps on falling for her...& one fine day proposes her.
WHOOSH!
Frnz se best frnz bane aur luv shuv te chicken khurana ki expectation me dosti ka band baja barat nikalwa lia :@

TWO POSSIBILITIES HOTI HAIN AESI SITU ME :
1) Ladki proposal accept kar le tumhara
2) Ladki reject krde

Second reaction aane k maximum chances hain but
agar first reaction ho jaaye to by god tumhari to balle balle....par aesa hoga tabhi jab:
-->ya to ladki apni existing rship se khush nahi hai
-->ya wo sirf money oriented hai
-->ya tum ranbir kapoor/hrithik/shahid/shahrukh ho :D

If she is happy with her boyfrnd, let her be....a girl who chit chats with u whole day...or late at night...or doesnt discuss her boyfrnd with u in great details...or hangs out with u...or is happy in ur company...does not mean she in love with u! NO ..NOT AT ALL!! If u cant sustain a frnship...forget that u can maintain a relationship...! Let her love u like a frnd...dont scare her with ur feelings...its barely infatuation...
100 crore ki population to sirf India me hai bhaaee, koi na koi to hogi... ;)
If in any case u r ever serious for ur bestfrnd, I can bet that it would take u 7 births to propose her .... Real feelings are hard to express becoz harder is the loss dat comes wid dismissal.

So forget infatuations... Girl_friend is 1000 times better than a GirlFriend...feel the SPACE..feel the difference...\m/  

Keep loving...
Dhak dhak dil ki dhadakti daastan ;)
Will be back soon guys.
@ Love ka Tadka
Prachi