THE DRAGON OF DRAGGING

Hello sweeties. Quite a long long tym na. To tell u the truth, i was searching fr a gud topic to hav a talk with u my luvly readers...and ....yes...finally I found it!

I knw itna tym ho gya hai toh aap log muje bhul gye hoge :o :o
Haww. Sach me bhul gye kya? :P

Achha wo sab chhoro, aaj k topic pe aate hain. Title se kuch kuch smjh aya? Arre...wt m talking abt is those rships jo boht long time se bhagwan ki daya se chali aa rahi hain :D BUT...aftr few yrs...it turns monotonous aur wo sirf drag hone lagti hai :(

And fir jab boht pakk jaate hain toh ek break liya jaata hai :-\ Ye kehke ki yaar aese toh hum dono zabardasti chala rahe hain rship...chhadd na..lets take a break...and fir jab idhar udhar muh maarne k baad feel waapis aajaegi ki yaar apni to rship wali bandi ya banda hi sahi ta...tab wapis aa jaenge!

Abe pagal ho kya?
Yahan bechare hazaro log..ek committed long term rship ki talaash me bhatak rhe hain aur tumhe mil gyi tumhare lucky draw me, toh waste karke nikal lo? Wt if ur ex moves on and there is no one to accept u bak?

Old is gold sirf kahaniyon me matlb ni rakhta...it actually has a deep meaning. Yaar soch k dekho, jis bande ya bandi ne tumhe tumhare saare faults and all k sath accept kia and even u did the same, and then u guys luvd each other alot, tabhi itne 4/5/8/9 saal chala na rship? Ab ussi ko OM BREEM KLEEM RELATIONSHIP APNE HATH SE SWAAHAA karke chalte banoge? Just bcz wo pehle waali feel ni aati? How lame.

Bhaee maana..itne tym me wo charm khtm ho jata hai bcz u get to knw everythng abt that person...but WO WALI FEEL kya ab doosro me hi dhoondne jaoge? Jahan pe pata ni mile na mile? Guys apne partner ka itna to pata h na ki agar try kia jaae toh u can get ur romance bak?!!!

Do that! Bring ur inner die hard lover back..BOTH OF YOU....fir koi maai ka laal keh k dikhaaye ki rship drag ho rhi hai. ;)

Simple sa funda hai boss...

   "Jo kabhi kisi ka naa hua, uska bhi kabhi koi nahi hota."     

Work upon ur rship. Water ur luv plant. It will surely blossom. Warna autumn aesa aaega na lyf me ki detached leaves ki tarah idhar udhar padte firoge. :D

  Glass todo, sheesha todo, par kisi ka trust mat todo yaar     :)  

<3 <3 Keep loving...                                          

Dhak dhak dil ki dhadakti daastan ;)
@ Love ka Tadka                                 

Prachi 

PYAAR KA BANTADHAAR

Hi guys..How have u been? It’s been really long yaar!!!  

U know what, I was searching for something real substantial to talk about but I guess most of the issues and fundas in relationships that take place, unse toh main already deal kar chuki. Ab itne time se i was thinking ki aesa kya bacha hai jo kabhi na kabhi hum sab apni relationships mein face karte hain and I have not been able to have a chit chat with u guys about it.

And guess what...? I found it! :D

Aaj na I have nothing to preach. Kuch samjhaane ko nahi hai. Bass ek realisation wala blogpost hai.

Arre itna serious bhi mat ho logon ;) Bass keep on reading and sath sath give it a thought.

Almost every other person on this earth is or has been in a relationship. Kabhi time pass wali, kabhi serious wala commitment, kabhi one sided luv, kabhi bakwas si relationship, and so on and so forth. Kuch na kuch experience sabko raha hai. Hai na?

Kabhi socha hai that what is that one thing which differentiates one relationship from another?? Relationship k naam pe serious commitment toh hazaaro log karte hain but wo aesi kya cheez hai which binds two ppl together for umpteen number of years while other one ends in few years or so.

Aaj ka topic yahi hai yaar! THE GAME OF LOVE-WHICH LEVEL ARE U ON? ;)

“Ki samjhaiya sajna aina nain kamalya noo..kehnde tenu dekhe vina guzara nahi Honda...” I bet Punjabi puttaron ne toh ye song zaroor suna hoga...and to those who haven’t understood the meaning, it means, “kya samjhau apni inn aankho ko...kehti hain ki tujhe dekhe bina guzara nahi hota..”  

Awwww how sweet..no? :)

Ye sab kehne sunne mein bada achha lagta hai, but when u have to actually deal with some grim situation in ur luv life, then actual reality check comes in! There are so many ppl around us who have been in relationships for a continuous period of 3 yrs, 5 yrs, 7 yrs, and even 10 yrs. By god! Now these two luv birds who have been together for so long, it’s very obvious that life must have hurled many difficult situations at them and they came out succeeding. Tabhi to itni anniversaries sath celebrate kar paaye! :D

But have u ever given a thought as to why there are other ppl who commit with a view of having a serious relationship & despite everything going well, break off? No no no no...jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity, ye sab bhi nahi hota inki relationship me, fir bhi it ends! Omg! Why???

I ll tell u why!?

Hum logon ne na luv ko pata nahi kya samjh ke rakha hua hai. Din me 50 baar i luv u bolna is not luv. Love is something big. Ek big wala important sa emotion hota hai luv. Luv ek aesi cheez hai which does not let u leave ur partner at any cost, whatever may happen to them. Luv is something where u always think good of ur partner. Chahe life mein kuchh bhi ho jaee na, aap uss bande ya bandi ka bura soch hi nahi sakte. Bass yahi baat hai jo long term relationships ko short term wali se alag kar deti hai!

Seriously!!! Har baar u don’t need an external factor for ending your relationship with someone. Kai baar rather most of the times, it is lack of love which brings an end to a luv affair. Hum sab jab commit hote hai na, toh with time, one by one kai levels paar karte hain...video game ki tarah. Aur jo video games me extra lifes milti hai na, wo hume chances ki tarah milte hain real life mein. Wahan toh hum intelligently play karke high, higher and highest levels pe pahuch jaate hain, par relationship k levels, aese cross nahi hote...yahan emotions role play karte hain.

As and when u grow in a relationship, u come to know about certain hidden problems that ur partner is suffering from ya kisi vajah se koi dikkat ho jaati hai usko, as in kuch bhi jese certain health problem, ya peculiar allergy, or some or the other irritation tendencies/physical defect/skin sensitivity etc. It could be anything. Jab ye pata chale toh kya reaction hoga aapka? Will u forget all the goods that a person has and will focus on just one problem that he/she has with his/her internal body system?

Jo bhi reaction hoga...point wo nahi hai...
point ye hai ki kya aap accept karoge?

If yess...then toh I m sure u’ll cross saare levels in this luv ka game..
nahi toh OUT! Fir kisi aur ki baari aayegi, there will be someone else who’ll accept the person with all his/her flaws, temporary ya permanent, but sabke sath, AS SUCH WITH NO ALTERATIONS!! :P
aur tum mr./miss. Bewafa, level 1 se firse game start karna kisi aur Bandar k sath :-\

So aaj ka luv ka tadka ye kehta hai ki:                 Pyaar karo to by god dil se karo...aese karo ki rationality kabhi emotions pe haavi na ho...
There is no use losing a diamond necklace over an imitation jewellery :D :D
warna....Mr. mehbub qayamat to aap par bhi hogi ... aur fir kabhi na ishq ki tujhpe inaayat hogi...                            

<3 <3 Keep loving...                                          
Dhak dhak dil ki dhadakti daastan ;)
@ Love ka Tadka                                 
Prachi 

I AM ALL YOURS but with conditions apply*

Hey ppl. Hows u all? Vacation time for all of u haan. Mast hai! ;) ;) :)

While I was thinking abt a new topic for discussing with u all..I chanced upon a mindset of some committed ppl which I found a bit alarming! Yaa...alarming.

Aap me se kitne saare log relationship me honge presently and boht log aese bhi honge who have had a breakup or a current partner along with an ex.

One thing must have been common to u all...at one point of time each one of u must have said this line,"I am all urs baby....U are the most important to me". 

Right?

Which means the addon experience that this line comes with asterisk over it which removes the ABSOLUTENESS of "being all urs"!

I m here to talk abt that asterisk today. ;)

Problem with this line is that some ppl take it too srsly...dil pe le lete hain iss line ko aur jab apna partner available nhi ho pata 24*7*everyMinute*everySecond,

tab ye line yaad dila dila k taunt maara jata h ki..... 

- tum to keh rahe te tumhare liye me sabse important hu/ tum sirf mere ho...aur ab wo xyz kaam ya game ya tv series mujse zada imp ho gya tumhare liye? 

- Wo eena meena deeka k sath shopping jaana zada zaruri ho gya mujse on9 chat karne se?

-Wo tom dick harry k sath night out zada zaruri ho gya mujse skype karne se? 

and so on and so forth...

Hahahah..m damn sure...majority of u must have gone thru this (some of u might be going through this at this very moment too. Ye faltu blog padna zada zaruri hai, mere msgs to pade jate nhi tumse...LOL :P)

Khair...point ye hai ki inn sab innocuous si chhoti si cheezo pe fights aakhir kyu?? I ll tell u why! BECAUSE of the simple fact that once into a rship ppl make their partners the axis around which their lives begin revolving.

Tum ho to yahan sab hi hai..tum nahi to kuch bhi nahi...

Achha?? Saans b mat lo na uske bina..sath sath hi lia karo. Iss logic se hota ye hai ki when u see ur bf/gf getting involved in sm work or going for an outing, which does nt involve u, u start missing them or get frustrated. Kyu? Kyuki aapki khud ki to koi life hai nahi na!

Naa to u do any work without ur bf/gf..nor u want them to do anything without u!!! U feel that when my life revolves only around my partner (which mistakenly u consider APAAR PYAAR), toh mere bande/bandi ki bhi priority sirf me hi hona chiye hu. If my partner is having smthng at the same priority level where he/she keeps me..that means ki he/she luvs me less &hence making me insecure.

To all such ppl...PLZ DON'T BE CRAZY! Have some mercy upon u & for the poor bf/gf of urs.

Dude...two ppl get committed when they choose to enjoy their lives TOGETHER.....NOT FOR MAKING IT ONE!

Wo latest song toh suna hi hoga na, DARD DILON K KUM HO JATE, MAIN AUR TUM AGAR '''hum''' HO JAATE..

Noticed HUM out there? Pain reduces when two come together to make it eleven..not one! HUM hamesha plural hota hai...Its TWO ppl who make HUM.....EK hamesha AKELA HOTA HAI.

>>>>Fit this in ur mind<<<<

When u ll get the above concept only then  u ll be able to appreciate the fact that a person saying YES, agrees for making u a part of their life...not for giving u the remote control of their life. U can besomeone's part of life only when u accept the fact that two individuals= two respective lives jo sabko alag alag jeene ka haqq hai.

A child is the creation of a mother & a father's togetherness...BUT even that progeny claims to have a life SEPARATE from his creators to whom he owes his life to.

Remember this guys...apni life prioritize karna seekho. I agree bura lagg sakta hai when for completing a game round would mean postponing ur fon call or so...but why dont u see it as a chance whereby u can lead an individual life too even when u r somebody's bf or gf! Find ur priorities too..apni hobbies dhoondo...and I bet that u ll njoy the time even when ur partner isnt there fr u. There r numerous roles which an individual lives & each role can give birth to many equivalent priorities. Seek happiness, not majboori.

~~~~I am all urs. True! But by wish and not by surrender..!~~~~

In my words...

               "Love shall make u a king..not a slave.    

Love gives freedom..chains are in slavery"               

<3 <3 Keep loving...                                          
Dhak dhak dil ki dhadakti daastan ;)
@ Love ka Tadka                                 
Prachi 

UNKNOWN EXPIRY DATE!!!

Hello ppl. Long time right. I hope u ppl haven’t forgotten me...nhi to ab yaad dila deti hu..:D

Khair me to thodi der me yaad aa hi jaungi..but point ye hai ki kya aapko wo person yaad hai jisne aapki life me kabhi special entry mari ti? I mean ur bf/gf.

Hanji!! Wohi Mr. Or miss right jo abhi b aapko jhel raha hai...haan haan aap bhi usko jhel rhe ho...aur apni relationship ko thoda sa luv, thoda sa fight ka tadka aur thoda sa jaanu baby mmuaah mmuuahh karke chala re ho.

:D

To all those who have been lucky enough to have a SUCCESSFUL relationship and it’s still ongoing for the last 2 or 3 or more years. THIS BLOGPOST IS FOR YOU darlings.;) <3 <3

 Yaad hai when u ppl had just got into the rship? Aaahhh those rosy days...wo lovey dovey days...jab smile ka rzn b wohi thi aur late night jagne ka bhi...jab plans b usi k sath bante the aur baate b usi ki thi..laughter se leke sad hone tak,sab ka rzn aapka banda ya bandi hi thi.

I bet max of u can relate wid this! Jab Vodafone airtel k cheap talktym plans dekhe jaate te..jab 1000 mins/month ki scheme b ek hi mahine me do baar dalwani padti ti...jab night ki chit chat daytime tak chalti ti..aur sardiyon me blankets chhup k baat karne k kaam aate the<3

KYA DIN THE WO..

Dheere dheere fir kya hua guys?? Boys m talking to u specially.

Maana ki rship dheere dheere grow hoti hai aur fir aap sab itne mature ho jate h uss rship k sath sath ki har waqt ki kissiyan vissiyan OVER SHOW of luv lagta hai aur useless bhi. Sochte hain ki when other person knows ki i luv him or her to baar baar jataane ki kya need hai. I agree!! Bcz after bng in d same rship for more than 1 yr or 2 yrs including ppl who r in a rship for more than 5 yrs now..rship ek word nhi reh jata...it bcums a part of u..it is as innate in u as much as ur mum dad bro sis relations exist for u...lots of luv but not requiring daily basis show of affection.

Par pata hai kya? This relation which u share wid ur bf or gf...is a relation YOU CHOSE TO START...toh usko chalane ki responsibility bhi aap pe hi hai. Maana u r a perfect bf and does not go possessive for ur gf bin baat pe ya does not stop her frm doing anything...BUT..ye sab kaafi nhi hai. Keep that flame burning in ur relationship dude!

Dheere dheere rships purane hote jaate hain..talktym k free 40 mins me chaar chaar din nikal jaate hain..goodnight gdmrng ROUTINE bann k reh jaate hain..i luv u jo pehle ek ghante me 24 baar bola jaata ta, ab 24 ghante me 1 baar bola jaata hai. WHY?? qki "ab to kabse hain yaar rship me...ab kya farak padta h kitni baar bola...pata to hai ki pyar karte hain."GALAT SOCH I TELL U.

Show the love & it survives...replace it with sighs & soon it dies - <me>

Guys have all the places to go with their frnz,cousins etc...and mind u HAPPENING PLACES in the town i mean. But when it comes to meet their girlfrns...tab Delhi me saari places khtm ho jati hain jaane k liye. Waah!! I m not saying that guys don’t wanna meet dere gfs...they do want and dats y they plan to meet up...BUT jagah ni hoti kahin b jaane ki. Wahi do char malls ghum lo..do teen food courts me khaa lo..chaar panch baar CP ghum aao aur bass khatm places! Do saal ki relationship k baad ek to boht mushkil se time nikala jaata hai milne k liye qki kabhi koi busy to kabhi koi ya garmi dhoop barish sardi...doosra agar chalo milne ka set ho bhi jata hai to JAAYE TO JAAYE KAHAN? ghoom fir k ya to all time majboori me fav bani ek hi jagah pe milte hain ya next time plan ye kehke cancl ho jata hai ki yaar naa to kuch baate hain aesi koi khaas karne ko aur na hi koi jagah hai jane ko..so chhor na..ghr pe baithte hain.:-|

Guys...y do u start thinking abt ur girlfnz as if they r ur biwi and all? Chalo sochte bhi ho to there is nothing wrong but FUN ELEMENT gayab ho jata hai yaar aese. Consider ur bandi as ur frnd first and give her the chance to have fun with u and get to knw the happening world arnd her which she wants to knw when u r still arnd...cz agar usne thaan li, to beta ek din wo sari happening places apne frnz k sath dkh ayegi and tum LOCHA-E-ULFAT gaate baithe rehna.

Lastly i wud sign off saying ki aesa hai behno aur unke bhaiyo aur bando..NEXT TIME MATCH K HISAAB SE APNE MILNE K SCHEDULES WALA DRAMA BANDD KARDO.....BANDI K SATH CAR DRIVE KARNA MUSIBAT LAGTA HAI CHAAHE WESE GHANTO KI DRIVING KARTE HO.....DOOR JANA MUSIBAT LAGTA HAI CHAAHE ROZ NCR REGION ME KAAM KARNE JAANA HOTA HO..aalas ki bhi had hai yaar..LISTEN PPL, rekindle the joy in ur rships.

Just bcz rship ki expiry date likhi ni hoti to take for granted mat lo...beta invisible expiry date zada khatarnaak hoti hai...naa jaane kab SAMAY SAMAAPTI KI GHOSHNA ho jae..;)

AVOID THE TRANSITION FROM:
SHANIVAAR RAATI HUMKO NEEND NAHI AATI, JAANE TU KESE SO JAATI

….to….

DO IT MY WAY NAHI TO HIGHWAY, INKO FARAK YAARO KEE PAINDA :P

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All the best with this thought...
Keep loving...                                          
Dhak dhak dil ki dhadakti daastan ;)
Will be back soon guys.                       

@ Love ka Tadka                                
Prachi